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Finding Friends, Legacy, and Leather Sluts at New Jersey’s Finest Holiday Inn

by Sophie Abromowitz

Published 2026-06-30 14:20:36+00:00

How do you build a lasting history in a hotel that resets the moment you leave?

0:00 / 41:09 · Narrator Sulafat

Context

Reflective insulation covers the ground-floor windows of a standard New Jersey Holiday Inn, sealing in more than a thousand attendees of an international queer leather convention. Published on 30 June 2026, the dispatch asks a surprisingly tender question about survival. When a vulnerable group keeps losing its physical gathering places, how do its people pass down their history? The answer points to the fierce necessity of physical contact, showing how a weekend of intense, negotiated play becomes a vital way to keep a culture alive.

Show notes

A first-person report from the International Ms. Leather and Ms. Bootblack convention, a weekend gathering for the queer and trans kink community at a New Jersey Holiday Inn. The author details their own participation in the event's BDSM scenes and traces the 40-year history of the leatherdyke subculture. Through archival research and interviews, they document how the group has maintained its physical spaces and shared memory since the AIDS crisis.

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